Heated Rivalry Isn’t Just a Gay Hockey Love Story. It’s a Mental Health Story for All of Us.
Heated Rivalry is about two closeted hockey players, but the hiding, the fear of intimacy, and the cost of staying invisible are not just theirs.
Why Do I Feel This Way? The Purpose of Emotions
Why do I feel this way? A therapist on the purpose of emotions, why anxiety is usually trying to protect you, and three questions to ask instead.
Why It’s So Hard to Find a Therapist Who Takes Insurance, and What You Can Do About It
Why the insurance directory is full of therapists who never call back, what coverage changes about your care, and what to do when you can’t find a fit.
What Divorce Court Taught Me About Saving Marriages: 7 Warning Signs to Catch Early
Thirty-three years in divorce court taught this family lawyer turned therapist what ends a marriage. Seven warning signs worth catching early.
ADHD and Motivation: 5 Stages of the Cycle (and How to Push Through)
ADHD motivation runs on interest, not importance. The five stages of the motivation cycle, and how to push through when it stalls.
What to Do With Your Child During the Summer: 5 Ideas
A play therapist on what to do with your child over the summer: a loose routine that holds, ideas for working parents, and screen rules that stick.
ADHD in Marriage: How the Gottman Method Can Help
ADHD in a marriage is rarely about not caring. How the Gottman Method helps couples stop reading symptoms as indifference and repair the pattern.
How to Stop Overfunctioning in Relationships
Overfunctioning looks like being the responsible one. It usually means carrying what is not yours. How to spot the pattern and step back from it.
Understanding the Window of Tolerance
Hyper-arousal, hypo-arousal, and the zone between them. What the window of tolerance is, and how to tell which one you are in right now.
How to Connect With Your Teen (Even in Tough Moments)
Four ways to reach your teenager during an emotional spike, starting with modeling calm instead of matching their intensity.
How to Calm Your Nervous System After Being Triggered
A four-minute video and a grounding practice for the moment right after you get triggered, when reasoning with yourself is not working yet.
The Relationship Between Fear and Perfectionism
Perfectionism is usually fear wearing a more acceptable outfit. How the two feed each other, and how to loosen the grip of getting it right.
Positive Discipline: The Power of YES With Elementary Age Kids
Positive discipline is not permissiveness. What it looks like in a real moment with a real kid, and why limits land better taught than punished.
Why Everything Is an Optimization Problem (Especially with ADHD)
You cannot optimize everything at once. Why trying to means the trade-offs pick themselves, and how to choose what you are solving for.
How to Handle a Quarter Life Crisis: A Therapist’s Advice
A therapist on the quarter life crisis: why your twenties can feel like falling behind, and what to do when the plan stops making sense.